... on the adoption front. You know after all the running around and gathering papers is done there isn't so much to write about. Now we are waiting and waiting and waiting. Goodness, we could be waiting for another 4 months!! So I guess I better find things to write about!!
Actually, I have things to write about. It is just hard to be inspired when they are not *exciting* things!! *laugh*
So why haven't I been writing for the last few weeks, besides the fact that there is nothing outstanding to write about? Well, I have found that if I am not careful I will grow this laptop out of my lap!!!
Seriously, do you know how easy it is to check on your yahoo groups emails and then for 'just a few minutes', just 'drop in' on a friend's - or two or three or twelve - adoption blogs? Do you know how addictive it is to sit here and go see a friend's blog and then from there cruise on to another one and then to one that links from that one to another and on and on!!!
I *never* had a computer problem until this adoption! Seriously, before this adoption I used this computer as a tool. It has now become *entertainment*! TV? What is that. I have blogging to do, blogs to visit, blogs to write, and of course, all those yahoo emails - gotta keep watching them *in case* someone gets a referral!! AAAAACCCCKKKKKK!!!!!
So I realized that I didn't like the fact that this *thing* was sitting on my lap (laptop) all the free moments that I had. Not that I have a ton of those with six kids. But trust me, you would be amazed how many 5 minutes you can sneak away to 'check the email' in case a referral came in! I jokingly call it my 'smoke break' (not that I was ever a smoker) just to justify that I am entitled to a moment to sneak a peek!
I also realized that if I was *always* on my blog or on the email(or just thinking about whenI would be checking on it next time) the time was going to *crawl* by as I tried to get through daily life.
I am sure that all my adoptive parent friends can attest to the fact that when you are waiting during an adoption, it is like everything is linked to the next step and life feels like it is on hold. "I just have to get through the homestudy." "Oh, if only the Foreign Affairs gets it back soon, I can relax then." And then it is, "Oh, as soon as the referral comes in, then I'll stop watching and waiting."
Well, that's a LIE!!! *laugh* You (I) will NEVER stop waiting and watching and wondering WHEN is it going to HAPPEN!!!
Realizing this was the case, I figured I had better *try* to keep my focus on other things. Not that I wasn't doing my job already. I was. I was just a little (lot) distracted and my mind would wander at times. Ever been pregnant for an indefinite period of time???
Now all you who have had a baby know that nine months is a long time. We all know *exactly* how rabid we become when we go over our due date!!! Now try to imagine that you are pregnant and have been for seven months and you have a *possible* eight to thirteen MORE months to be pregnant!!!! That could be a grand total of TWENTY months pregnant! LOL!!
Weeeelll, that's what it feels like when you are adopting. And don't tell me you didn't scream to have that *overdue* baby deliver! *grin* Thankfully I was only overdue once; the rest were born early!! Gotta love that!
Now that I realize that blocking out the adoption 'slightly', is a better way of getting through, it has been better. I run through weeks at a time now - no longer day by day. *grin* I start my week on Monday and *focus* on getting through as much school as I can by Friday.
I am *sure* my kids *love* this point!! LOL!! One good thing about this adoption - my kids are going to get a *lot* of learning in!!
I have found that the last few weeks have actually flown by! I have just bypassed the *eight* week mark. That is hard to believe!! It feels like just yesterday that our file was off to Ethiopia, but here we are now already 5 weeks since Christmas! Wow, at the speed we are flying the year is going to shoot by, and we should see a referral. Plus, my kiddos are going to be so much the smarter!! *grin*
We also have a goal in mid May that we are working towards. Our boys are working very hard on their schoolbooks, so that we can begin our summer holidays with another Rambling Road Trip. My boys love when mum takes them on the road!!
Our intent is to be on the road by mid May, so that we can do the Western Canada trip. We have *lots* of adventures planned and trust me, the time will fly by! By the time we come home, it will be time for the official summer holidays to begin! Then we will be doing landscaping in our new home (never got the backyard done last summer) and probably another Road Trip later in the summer.
Now, saying Christmas as a goal for bringing our children home doesn't sound so far away. Before it was dreadful. Now it's not so far away....
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I TOTALLY know what you mean by the "when the file reaches Ethiopia, then I can relax" and "when the referral comes, then I can relax" type of situations. You think that once you make it over one hurdle you'll be able to just sit back and relax for a while, but you don't! Well, I do for a couple of days but then its right back to worrying and hoping that the next step will go by quickly! I have concluded that this madness is definitely not going to end until Zia is safely in my arms! LOL!
Wow...8 weeks waiting for a referral already. You are right, it feels like not too long ago that you posted that your file landed in Ethiopia! I hope the rest of your wait to see your children's faces is quick! (not that it matters though because the next worry will be the court date! LOL) :-)
I was wondering where you had been. I totally hear ya on the obsession with the internet, blogs, the yahoo groups etc... It all started for me during our first adoption, and then we started the next one 3 months after Robel was home, and then this one 5 months after the twins were home.... which means it's been 3 years of addicted to checking my emails, blogs and yahoo groups... frightening! It's like it's the way I cope with the wait.
I'm starting to think I need to get off here more often... and stop stealing away those 5 min breaks...
Anyway, hope we both hear something soon!
Sandi
May your rabidity end soon. You've been "pregnant" long enough. What a relief it will be when it finally does come to pass that your daughters come home. It'll be like, "Oh! You're here! How nice!" and all the rabid feelings will be a distant, faint memory as you behold the precious faces and hear the sweet voices of little girls with whom to grow old.
-Steen
Justine, you've been running a hundred miles an hour for quite some time now. You've rounded the bend now, and the final stretch is before you, you know, those maternal end times when it seems to take forever for time to pass. So my advice to you? I know it isn't in your nature, but why not put your feet up for a bit, you deserve it and besides, I'm sure it won't be long before you have plenty to share with everyone. Hugs!
Wow! I could have written that post! I totally know what you mean! I came to the same realization last week and decided to not turn my computer on in the day at all. It made the days so much better and when I am doing a puzzle with my children, I am not constantly trying to think of an excuse to go and check! I must admit though, that I have missed reading your blog so I hope you don't keep away too much.
love, Natasha Salaash
Hi Justine,
I loved that post - my husband is saying I'm addicted, too! It's so true that we can't stay away. I've been trying....
I'd love to hear more about this roadtrip...do you camp, stay at hotels, what? Do you take all 6 kids by yourself? For how long? We're lucky if we can get some weekend camping trips in.
Take care...I'm thinking of you!!
Tammy
You are one self disciplined mama.
I have a brilliant idea!!!! How about I send my two middle children to you to be homeschooled, and I will check the blogs, boards and e-mails all day and give you a summary at the end of each day! Sound like a plan?????
Blessings,
Corrie
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