"Do not be afraid, for I am with you. I will bring your children from the east and gather you from the west." Isaiah 43:5



Friday, November 30, 2007

Just a Melancholy Moment (or two)

I just had something odd happen. Odd to me. I am not usually an emotional person. We spent the morning decorating our house for Christmas. I always make a point of decorating it before the 4th of December, as we have a child born on December 4th and another on December 5th. Those are *their* birthday decorations.

I had finally finished decorating and was walking upstairs to get a little treat, so I could sit and munch while reading my email. As I walked upstairs I glanced up at our beautiful rug hanging on the wall. The rug of our girls.




As I looked up I thought to myself, "This wall looks rather bare. I should hang up a garland for the girls." And then my mind just wandered to the girls in Africa - possibly alone in an orphanage this Christmas and it just brought a lump to my throat and tears to my eyes. I am not a weepy person at all, but for some reason it just hit me.

I have been very analytical about this whole adoption - keeping the girls at arm's length. This was mainly to protect myself from getting emotionally attached. But for some reason today I felt they are 'our girls alone in an orphanage' and I just pray that God is with them and they feel loved - whereever they are. Hopefully we will have them home by next Christmas.


Now, for all those little ones stuck in an orphanage this Christmas and all those mummy's and daddy's waiting to bring their little ones home - this song's for you. (next post)


Turning Down the Audio

Thought I would just mention (in case you don't know) that to hear the videos I have posted on my blog, you need to go to the bottom (scroll down) and hit the pause button. I think you have to hit it twice to stop the song. Then you can hear the videos. Hope you enjoy them.

Merry Christmas

It doesn't matter where your children are; they are either with you or they aren't...

When Love Takes You In - Steven Curtis Chapman

Another beautiful adoption song

Band Aid - Do They Know It's Christmas Time?

This song so makes me cry - this Christmas. I remember when this song hit the charts. It was an amazing to see the world's response. Can't they do it again?

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

A Little Bit of Fun

As a bit of fun I decided to find out what kind of pie I am!! LOL! I am happy to say I am Good Old Fashioned Apple Pie! *smile* You know, I find when I do these things that they are scary accurate!!!




You Are Apple Pie



You're the perfect combo of comforting and traditional.

You prefer things the way you've always known them.

You'll admit that you're old fashioned, and you don't see anything wrong with that.

Your tastes and preferences are classic. And classic never goes out of style.



Those who like you crave security.

People can rely on you to be true to yourself - and true to them.

You're loyal, trustworthy, and comfortable in your own skin.

And because of these qualities, you've definitely earned a lot of respect.

Monday, November 26, 2007

Just Curious

I am watching my visitors and seeing who visits from where and I am curious about something. The Canadian and American visitors can be accounted for cause I know lots of people on both sides, but I am wondering about the 'somewhat' regular visitors from Norway, Germany and United Kingdom.

I wonder if any of you want to stand up and be counted. I am wondering if you are different random visitors or if I know you. Are you people who are adopting from Ethiopia yourselves? Or are you family (U.K.) or friends (Germany)? Got me really curious and I wonder if you would help me out?

You don't need to divulge who you are if you want your privacy, but if you feel like telling if you are an adoptive parent or a friend that would be great! You can leave a comment in the comment section or email me privately through the My Profile near the top on the right hand side.

Thanks!

Sunday, November 25, 2007

Gratitude: My Driving Force

I thought I was done on this topic. *grin* - But God keeps giving me more that is shaping my heart. I write these words because they are *my* thoughts and I have always been a journaler. I am also (if you hadn't already figured it out!! LOL!) an analytical person, and I am always trying to suss things out and second guess God!!

This morning, I was determined to get some quiet time in before the troops arose. Like that is possible in my house!! We have a 2 year old that has never slept in; he is usually the one that wakes me up. So this morning, after I settled him in front of his babysitter. Yes, I the person who does not like the television and restricts my kids greatly, uses the tv as a personal nanny in the wee hours of the morning! It is either that or have him bouncing off the walls, and I figure tv is less destructive to the sleeping gang and my sanity!

So I got my Bible and my devotions and relaxed with my coffee. I *love* the devotions I use. I am not one for the devotions of today. I find them too airy fairy. I like meaty devotions. Devotions that make you think. Devotions of today are usually related to how the car pool is an analogy for something spiritual. I just don't feel like I am getting the meat and potatoes when I read that stuff! LOL!

My favourite devotions do have stories in them, but they are weighty stories:

The copyright dates are not in the books (just reprints)

Oswald Chambers - My Utmost For His Highest - before the 1930s
Mrs. Chas E. Cowman - Streams in the Desert - 1925
Robert Schuller - Daily Power Thoughts - 1970s

Before I did my devotions, I had been praying and remembering what I was saying yesterday about having an attitude of praise while waiting. I was looking for things to be thankful for, and trust me, it is not easy when you know it is not simply a wait that you are on. I prayed on these things and then, as I was praying, the enemy let slip into my mind the looming adoptive family size restriction that could come into place.

Oh, waiting is not so hard when you know you have a sure thing. But try being peaceful when you know that each day you wait puts you closer to the government meeting that is going to happen sometime, when they are going to decide if they should limit adoptive family sizes.

The further into this adoption we go, the riskier it gets. The longer we wait, the more money we invest, the more our hearts are wrapped up - the tougher it gets.

Last night, my husband and I, and our older two boys were playing a wonderful board game. It is called "10 Days in Africa" - a must buy for anyone adopting from that continent. It is so simple and fun and a game lasts about 20-30 minutes - very doable in any busy family's lives!

As we were playing and discussing various countries and things we knew about them, one of our sons said, "Our girls are from here," as he pointed to Ethiopia. The other replied, "Look how close our girls live to Egypt."

As they said these words, a part of me loved the fact that our boys already love their sisters. Sight unseen they are their sisters, and they are simply waiting for them to come home. But another part of me felt - Stop! What if they don't come home? What if the restriction comes into force. How many hearts will be broken?

My negative thoughts disappeared quickly as I have great faith that all will be well. But still...

So this morning, as I was praying and those negative thoughts crept into my mind, I prayed against them. I prayed that God will NOT stop all these families that love children so much that they want to add one, two, or three more to their already large brood. I know the Lord blesses those who trust Him, and we certainly trust Him to provide for us - food, clothing - he brings it all and more, and so abundantly. Our cup truly runneth over!

After I prayed, I picked up my Daily Power Thoughts and it was so in target with the journey I am on. It was just a confirmation of the prayer I had prayed:

"But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ." 1 Corinthians 15:57

Robert Schuller tells the story of himself as a boy, when a tornado ate up his house and all five outbuildings.

That night our family gathered. We held hands and prayed. My father prayed, "Oh, God, I thank you for not a life was lost! Not a human bone was broken. We have lost nothing that cannot be regained. And through the storm we have kept everything that would be irreplaceable - especially our faith."

My father's attitude of gratitude gave him driving power. He went into town and bought an old house that was to be demolished. We took it apart board by board, nail by nail, and rebuilt it over the empty hole in the ground that was the basement of our previous house.

Driving power - the ability to make bold decisions and move forward confidently in the face of tremendous odds!

Wow!! That gives my stomach butterflies. For the next 3, 6, 9, 12 months that is where we will be - facing tremendous odds - odds of being rejected after all we have gone through - simply because our family is too big.

"Whatever you wish will happen! And the light of heaven will shine upon the road ahead of you." Job 22:28

The attitude of gratitude releases dynamic power! Gratitude releases arriving power. You make it!

And when you arrive, you will have also developed the great qualities of character - humility and unselfishness. Humility because you realize you did not arrive through your efforts alone. It took team work. Unselfishness because gratitude is nothing more than saying, "I didn't really do it. Thank you for your help!" Gratitude is saying thank you to this person, to your friends, to your community, and to God.

It is impossible to become a vain, egotistical, selfish person if you maintain an attitude of gratitude!


I will believe for the best - I will have an attitude of gratitude for this adoption and all that has happened and is happening because of it. That will be my driving force through the upcoming unknown months.

Saturday, November 24, 2007

Praising and Enjoying the Journey

Funny how things work out!! Last Saturday, I posted on "Waiting. Could it be construed as a privilege?" Then on Thursday night, I went to my ladies Bible study. There are about 5 of us that get together and watch and discuss an ongoing dvd seminar by Joyce Meyer. We are a laughing crowd. We have so much fun, but at the same time so many deep spiritual conversations happen. A real unique group.

So when we got together this week we were watching a 7 minute clip from her seminar when she was discussing praising during waiting. Or another part was enjoying the journey. How appropriate was that!! There were such nuggets of information that I had to keep saying, STOP!!! So I could write things down. That woman talks fast, (almost as fast as me! *grin*) but she sure packs it in!!! And she is FUNNY and REAL!! If you can watch her sometime, do! She is on tv a lot, also.

So here are some of the nuggets I got:

You are not going to hurry God anymore, so you might as well settle down and enjoy where you are at!!

Enjoy the thing you are doing while on the way to where you are going - She reminded us that we have children - enjoy them. Yes, we are looking forward to our referrals and children coming home, but in the meantime, be *sure* to focus on what is happening in your own life!! I am thankful that I am already there on that one. It crossed my mind a few days prior to this that in this next year my 'baby' Briton will grow up one more year! That would be a tragedy if I was so busy focussing on bringing the girls home that I 'missed' that year, by just watching the calendar to when the next important adoption thing happened!

Be more thankful for where we are at. Be thankful for what we have - not what worry about what we want to have.

God wants to bless a thankful people. Murmuring, grumbling, and complaining doesn't move God to help us - be thankful. There are so many things we can be thankful for: indoor plumbing, running water, the van we have. If we don't have shoes, be thankful we have feet to walk on. If you need a new van, thank the Lord for the one you already have. You could be walking!!

We are not born with a thankful, contented heart. We learn it.

Philipians 4:11 - I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to content whatever the circumstances."

She then said that contentment doesn't mean that we don't want change - that would be passivity. She is suggesting that we find a way to be goal-oriented visionaries, while enjoying every step of the journey.

Because life is not really about the arrival. It's about the journey we take to get there. We have to enjoy the journey. Amen!

1st Thessalonians 5:18 "Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus."

So, during my waiting for my papers to *finally* get sent to Ethiopia - 27 days, but who's counting *grin* - I am reminded to not just be at 'peace' with it, but to be *thankful* for it!! So what am I thankful for? My beautiful healthy boys, that Christmas is coming, that my husband agreed to add two more kids to our already full household, that I have met friends through this adoption process, that God has provided the funds for our adoption and on and on!

On Thursday, after I came home from the meeting I decided to read my devotions. I *never* read devotions at night. It is weird, but God just seems to know how and when to get my attention, and whenever I read my Bible or devotions at a time I would not normally do it, I find I get a reading I need to hear at that time.

My devotions that night all related to one thing: An attitude of praise during the wait. Talk about timing!

"How precious it is, Lord, to realize that you are thinking about me constantly!" Psalm 139:17

The attitude of gratitude releases the dynamic power that helps you survive. Gratitude also releases reviving power. You can find the power to start again when you feel like quitting. You can pick up the pieces and bounce back to make a come back.

So when you feel like quitting next, think about the situation and what the pressures are. Then think about what in that discouraging situation you can be thankful for.

Now over this last week I have gotten to a place of absolute peace about our file and the wait. Total rest. So it was almost *funny* when I discovered that another adoptive parent was running neck and neck with me! I discovered she was waiting for Foreign Affairs, also.

Seriously, I was at peace with our file taking longer than expected to come back from Foreign Affairs, and I was at peace with other families getting to Ethiopia before us. BUT.. BIG BUT... at that time there were no families that were actually asking for the same age girls as we are. So was I really at peace, or was I just not in competition? *smile*

Well, I am happy to say I passed the test! Yesterday, I got an email from another mum and she told me she is also asking for sisters in the age bracket we are asking for. I immediately thought, God is goooood. He is allowing me in my 'restful' place to see if I really am restful. LOL! And I am.

I told our boys that God so know who our girls are that if we pushed our file on and got to Ethiopia before we were intended to, we might end up with the wrong girls!! Imagine if we got girls that didn't like boys! ACKKKK *grin*

So it doesn't matter that there is someone else who might be a day ahead or behind us in the running. Our girls are our girls. I was just pleased to see *how* I reacted to this new news. *smile*

Today though, I was pleasantly surprised to find I am not in competition, as I had thought. This mum's file is not at Foreign Affairs yet; it is on it's way. But that doesn't matter. What does matter is I am growing. Inch by inch, one situation at a time, God is working on my heart. I love to see my own attitude improvements!

Until next time....

Thursday, November 22, 2007

No News ....


Well, here we are entering our fourth week of waiting for our authentication from Foreign Affairs. It is rather ironic because I was concerned about our dossier sitting on someone's In pile, getting forgotten, and it actually happened!! What chance of that! So now we are two weeks behind where we could have been. Time is ticking, ticking, into the future... *grin*

Just an update for y'all! *smile*

Wednesday, November 21, 2007

One Laptop Per Child



This is the coolest thing I have seen!!! This little laptop is an XO laptop. It is made by the company One Laptop Per Child. I have been to their website and read every piece of information on this amazing laptop. It is truly amazing! What is the best thing is if you donate $399 US - they will send a lap top to a child in a developing country, send you another computer for your child, *and* give you a $200 tax deductible receipt!! And if you don't want a computer, for every $200 you donate they will send a computer to a child in a developing country. Or $400 will send two computers! How cool is that!!


As to the quality of this computer - it is incredible!!! It is wireless, has a battery that charges 2000 times (4 times the life of a regular laptop), durable, weather resistant for all terrains, neat programs within, so many features!

This is a quote from their website:

OLPC’s mission is to provide a means for learning, self-expression, and exploration to the nearly two billion children of the developing world with little or no access to education. While children are by nature eager for knowledge, many countries have insufficient resources to devote to education—sometimes less than $20 per year per child (compared to an average of $7,500 in the United States). By giving children their very own connected XO laptop, we are giving them a window to the outside world, access to vast amounts of information, a way to connect with each other, and a springboard into their future. And we’re also helping these countries develop an essential resource—educated, empowered children.



Between November 12 and November 26, OLPC is offering a Give One Get One program in the United States and Canada. This is the first time the revolutionary XO laptop has been made available to the general public. For a donation of $399, one XO laptop will be sent to empower a child in a developing nation and one will be sent to the child in your life in recognition of your contribution. $200 of your donation is tax-deductible (your $399 donation minus the fair market value of the XO laptop you will be receiving).

Saturday, November 17, 2007

Waiting. Could it be Construed as a Privilege?

Yesterday, I was chomping at the bit. I was certain that my letter from our agency would be in my inbox confirming that our dossier was sent to Ethiopia. But, I was also a bit nervous of checking, so I held off opening my email until about 12:15 - right before I had to leave the house for town.

As you may remember, our file got to our agency, on October 30 and should have been sent off to Ottawa, on October 30/31. A friend on the exact timeline had her file sent off and returned and then off to Etiopia, by November 8. So that should have been my dates, too.

Unfortunately, due to error, our file sat on the WAITING pile for a 'missing' document for eight days before it was discovered. This document was not actually even missing. It was in the file. At this point it was rectified and sent to Ottawa. It was rather frustrating to say the least.

Then this week, I heard of another family that truly were missing two documents and their file was sent off to Ottawa, anyway! This made me (to be polite) frustrated! This is my blog, so I will be honest, (like I'm not always?! LOL!). I am thankful that they were *not* requesting the same child request as we are, or they would have been bumped ahead of us on *our* pile. As it is, their request was for a single female, so it won't affect us.

But all the same, I felt like - Why did our caseworker wait for a document before sending our dossier, and her caseworker sent her dossier, while waiting for her documents to arrive - "saving us a couple weeks", to quote her.

So that was kind of what was going on in my head this week. A little (lot of) unrest. Wondering where my file was. And wishing *I* hadn't had the 'luck' to get held back. And of course, I *want* to have my file in Ethiopia when my friend, Corrie does cause I would *love* to fly with her to ETH to pick up our kids together. How cool would that be?!

So back to yesterday - I waited til 12:15 to open my email - right before I had to be out the door. It was now 16 days that our file had been at KL and eight days since it was finally sent to Ottawa. I really hoped it would be back, and didn't really want to wait til Monday to call or email. I checked my email and felt such a let down when I saw there was no letter....

I then saw an email from my friend, Corrie. Her email had a subject of - Be not discouraged - I quickly opened it but didn't have time to read it, as I wanted to savour it because at the top it said, "Let me tell you a story," and I knew it would be encouraging.

I have to say that God is awesome in how He puts people in your path when you are on a journey!! This has happened twice in my life!!

When we made the move from the coast to here, I met a girl over the internet - I was very new on the internet at the time. We met in April of 1998, and in June both our families made radical decisions to move from surburbia to the remote rural areas of the Interior of BC and Tennessee!!! Only another person who was packing their stuff up and heading out (with no jobs or houses lined up -carting a handful of children), like the pioneers and settlers of old, would understand that it *wasn't* crazy - it was a God ordained decision - and it would be SO like Him to send a friend to make the journey with!

That friendship is the dearest one to my heart and we are kindred spirits to this day!! We have had three trips to Florida and Tennessee to stay with them, including a six week trip last year where our whole family drove and flew down. And they have been up to our house last winter! God is GOOD!

I have to tell you though, when I saw the subject - Be not discouraged- I had such a warm rush. It was just what I needed, and I know God knew this at the time when He inspired Corrie to write to tell me her story.

At this point, I thought it wouldn't hurt to send a quick email out to our agency asking IF our file had come back yet. I knew they had a couple hours to answer before the end of the week.

I left the house right after this (knowing I would read the email from my friend later) and went to our homeschool group meeting and then came home about 5:00pm. Our children were doing a "Fall Fun Day" all that day, as we don't do Halloween, and so our Fun Day was continuing as the evening wore on. Finally, after I had all the young ones in bed and the older ones were watching a video, I opened my email. I hoped against hope there was a reply from Jill.

No such luck. I was so discouraged. I just felt tired.

Truly, a person has to experience an adoption to understand 'waiting' - especially when you *shouldn't* be waiting!! I then read Corrie's email and I have to tell you, it was such an uplifting message. It just showed me that God CAN move things on faster if HE wants to, but He is in charge and as many roadblocks as He allows to come up - or actually PUTS up - might the very roadblocks that bring us to OUR girls rather than to someone else's girls.

Then this morning, I was reading my devotions and kind of just 'back in the saddle again' - I had let go of the 'Man, why is our file held up!' attitude. My wait might seem small and the devotion might seem 'too big' for such a small wait, but God knows our hearts and what specifically we need to be working on!!!

I know from the past - while I was worrying about the family size restriction coming into play, that God was working on my faith that He was in control there. My faith in that grew, and I have stopped worrying about the proposal coming into force. My other thing was while waiting a needless 3 weeks for a social worker to call (while waiting to start our homestudy), while others were getting a call in days! Again, God showed me He was in charge - when He arranged for the social worker to take us through our complete homestudy and approval process in 27 days!! WOW!!!

This, what I am going through now, is another kernel in my heart. It is not "trust in God". It is "resentment and me wanting to be in control of this adoption".

My thinking is rather: Hey! I have done my job. Right? So why can't the others do their jobs in just as organized a fashion?

Well, God needs me to see that HE is doing the job - I just *think* I am!! And by me being made to wait, it is giving me time to *learn* this point!!! You don't go from being a piece of clay to a piece of beautiful pottery without the Refiner's fire!! The fire just seems to burn a little too hot, sometimes!! LOL!

"The very hardships that you are enduring in your life today are given by the Master for the explicit purpose of enabling you to win your crown.

Do not wait for some ideal situation, some romantic difficulty, some far-away emergency; but rise to meet the actual conditions which the providence of God has placed around you today. Your crown of glory lies embedded in the very heart of these things - those hardships and trials that are pressing you this very hour, week, and month of your life. The hardest things are not those that the world knows of. Down in your secret soul unseen and unknown by any but Jesus, there is a little trial that you would not dare to mention, that is harder for you to bear than martyrdom.

There, beloved, lies your crown. God help you to overcome, and sometimes wear it.

"It matters not how the battle goes,
The day how long;
Faint not! Fight on!
Tomorrow comes the song."

The funny thing is, I am different to the person in the devotion. I *am baring my soul* when I tell you all what the kernel in my secret soul is!!

From last night to this morning this is what has changed. From feeling so let down... to reading Corrie's email.... to God working on my heart through the night... to reading that devotion this morning.... I feel different.

This morning I suddenly feel *privileged*. How odd is that!! I feel privileged to be waiting and to be 'held up' by human hands!!!

Why?

Because God is personally working on *my* case - He knows our girls, and He is orchestrating their arrival at the orphanage for when He knows we will be ready! This is not just a random choice of orphanage staff choosing girls that fit in the wide age catagory that we have given!! Though I am sure the staff thinks *they* have chosen - I know God knew who our girls were even before we knew we would be adopting!

God *knows* the desires of our hearts and He will fill those desires.

So now, though I will still wait, and yes, even if more dossiers pass ours who were supposed to be 'behind' us, I will, "Trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding. In all my ways I will acknowledge Him and He will direct my paths." Proverbs 3:5

God in His infinite wisdom is in charge and knows best!!!

I just need to remember that!!

Monday, November 12, 2007

What Can We or You Do to Help?

I had a friend feeling very sad today, due to the deplorable conditions of some of the orphanages in Russia. These poor sweet children are left sitting in cribs for days on end - using their fingers to amuse themselves - fed through bottles with large holes so they can be fed in *five* minutes - 15 month old babies left to spoon feed themselves.

This is HEARTWRENCHING!!! But at the same time, I am sure these caregivers in the orphanages don't have much choice. There are only so many staff and oh, so many children!!!

The question that some make is "Why does God allow this??"


These are my thoughts on this:

This sadness at these conditions is what took our thoughts from being about adopting two little girls to doing all that we can for Africa. There are so many ways we can help the children that are there right now, without even taking one of the children out of the country:

Christmas boxes - Operation Christmas Child - each of our children buys one for another child. It probably costs us $10 per box to put together a wonderful box filled with pencils, pads of paper, soap, toothpaste, toothbrush, balls, cards, Matchbox cars, craft supplies, hair brush, markers, colouring books, stickers, hard candy, and gum etc. Do you know how much joy your child will have as *they* help pack these boxes full of love? Then our children write a little note to be inserted. We know that often the children will not be able to read the note, but I am certain whoever is giving the boxes, does speak English and there is someone to translate. They also include a photo of our family. These boxes give such hope of the love that someone across the world feels for them. On top of this - the best thing of all is that the know of God's love for them!! They are given a tiny Bible of their own and shown that God loves them through the love of others.

Small farm animals through World Vision - Buying chickens and roosters - one set $55 and it sets up a family! For Christmas this year each of our children is going to buy chickens or a piglet or a rabbit and set up a family. There is a program through World Vision and my dad is going to get a pig for Christmas, and will he be surprised!! LOL!! His name will be sent as a donor and he will receive a card telling him that he gave. That will be a present from us to him, via another person. Seriously, for about $40 we can buy a piglet and do you know how far that goes??

One little boy, who is a 9 year old orphan and living with his uncle received a piglet, from World Vision. It was bred and he sold 5 of the piglets to support his family and his schooling; two he gave back to World Vision to help another child. The sow is still living and producing for him. That $40 gift has changed the life of this child and his uncle. He has a future now. $40!

Through World Vision when we sent $400, it multiplied into $2000 by corporate Canadian sponsors and fed many, many children for a month! They often have these deals where whatever you send will be multiplied by 4, 5 or even 10 times!!! How easy is that!!!

Sponsoring a child through World Vision - actually helps the whole family, plus more goes to the community. That is only $33 a month! Plus your children have the privilege of writing and getting to know a child in another country. The child will write back as frequently as you write to them.

When I was 19 years old and living in Banff I saw an ad on TV advertising World Vision and fostering a child. Seeing as I always wanted children I immediatley signed up. I received the picture of the sweetest little 2 year old Thai boy, Wasupon. I sponsored Wasupon until he was 18 years old!!! At that time his community had become self-sufficient and no longer needed sponsors for the children in that area. It was the coolest thing to see him grow up. By then I was married and our family moved onto another little boy - God even sends male foster children!! LOL! And he has been with us now for 9 years.

Then when we get to Ethiopia we intend to pour some concrete floors in some huts and maybe build some beds, or even put up some tin houses.

There is so much we can do.

The most important thing to remember is that God gave man *free will* and man is ultimately the reason for these people's suffering!! Corrupt governments and poor choices.

Ethiopia for instance: a lot of their drought problems comes from noone stopping the clear cutting that was going on and they lost all the trees etc that was holding the soil in the ground. This in turn stopped anything from growing. Drought followed. It is hard to explain. Read "There is No Me Without You" - an amazing book about one woman's odyssey to save Africa's children - it will open your eyes to man's choices and how these people suffer because of it!

For instance - did you know the Insulin patent was sold for $1 - ONE DOLLAR - so that poor people could be helped and afford care?! The Aids - antiviral medication has been patented also, but by rich greedy people and the cost is EXHORBITANT!! and because of it millions continue to die - and there are MILLIONS of orphans!

God WEEPS as He sees His children die from hunger and disease!! He gives US the *choice* to help where we can. And if each of us helps a little bit, the hunger and pain will be eleveated!

Due to corrupt governments and man's free choice, there will always be pain and suffering in the world - we do what we can, and pray for God to move others to do the same. Bono and ONE is helping in extraordinary ways - wonderful. But GOD gave EACH OF US the chance to help! What are YOU going to do today to help?!

Invisible Children of Uganda

This amazing video will open your eyes to some of the children of Africa. It will break your heart. Then go and watch Blood Diamond and see what it is all about. That was what moved my husband to adopt.

They are CHILDREN not soldiers.

Saturday, November 10, 2007

Other Family's Good News

This last week, there have been so many referrals. It is so encouraging!!

One family got their referral for a 3 month old baby; another for a 2 1/2 year old boy - they had only been waiting for 2 1/2 weeks since their dossier arrived in Ethiopia!

Another got a baby girl. And the most cool one of all was a sibling group of three! This lucky family have just been referred 4 year old twins - boy and girl, and their 1 year old baby brother. How beautiful is that!!

With our file so close to getting to Ethiopia (days away) , I find it so encouraging to hear of these referrals; especially the quick ones!! Lately, there have been at least two families that received their referrals within a couple weeks of their file being sent!

As well as all the referrals, there have been two families that have just returned this week from picking up their children and also lots of Visas and Medicals in the 'mysterious' POUCH.

The pouch is something that travels from the High Commission in Nairobi to Kidslink. This pouch always has good news in it. When children's visas or medicals are issued they are put into the pouch and then delivered to KL, where it is then opened. Believe me, the people who are waiting for good news are waiting with baited breath for this pouch to be opened. It is usually opened on Fridays, but once in a while (like the last two weeks) it has not been opened until Monday. At that time there are squeals of excitement or sighs of disappointment, depending on whether a waiting parent's child's visa or medical came in or not.

So here is to hoping that our file gets AUTHENTICATED this week and is off to Ethiopia SOON!

Thursday, November 8, 2007

Bill C-14 - How YOU Can Help Bring Adopted Children Home Sooner

There has been much speculation on the two Canadian Ethiopia Adoption yahoo groups regarding what the upcoming Bill C-14 might mean to prospective adoptive families. In the beginning, most were hopeful that it would eliminate the long (often up to 6 months) wait that families and children in orphanages are subjected to, while waiting for the Permanent Resident Visa to be issued.

This is really unfair, unnecessary, and so hard on the children. These children, the majority of whom, have not been in the orphanage more than a few days, before they are proposed to waiting families, are then made to wait this additional 6 months. Who wants to see a child sitting in an institution?

Thankfully, our agency has a wonderful Transition House, where the children are loved and well fed and cared for, but that does not take away from the fact that these children are needing to be in a permanent placement as quickly as possible. Sitting in this orphanage for an addition 5-6 months will cause the children to go through yet another loss, when they are forced to leave the caregivers that they have now become attached to. Other countries: US, Great Britain, Australia, to name a few are bringing their children home in 4-6 weeks after the court date!

But now we have heard news from the Canada Gazette that Bill C-14 WILL NOT bring our kids home sooner. They expect the new regulations to take just as long as the Permanent Resident Visas. This is extremely disheartening news to anyone involved in an adoption.

Two wonderful ladies within our Yahoo groups, who have an outstanding amount of professional clout, education and a great deal of care, have worked extraordinarly hard, night and day, researching thoroughly and then drafting up, an articulate and well versed letter. This position letter will be sent to the Director of the Legislation and Program Policy Citizenship and Immigration.

Following this letter (down below) there is a "support letter". If you do support this position taken in the position letter, please send your personalized letter of support to Chris Arden (at christycanuck @yahoo.ca – remove spaces) NO LATER THAN 13 NOVEMBER 2007. They will collect all the support letters and include them in a package with the position letter to be sent to the Director at Citizenship andImmigration who is responsible for collecting responses to the regulations. All responses need to reach him by 15 November 2007.

There is an opening here where changes are still being implemented - specifically where it relates to the time frame in bringing the children home sooner. If you are a friend, or a family member, or an aunt, uncle, cousin, of an adoptive or prospective adoptive family PLEASE consider supporting us all in this endeavor. This is your chance to help change the course of how International Adoptions are done in Canada, and help bring children out of institional care and into their forever families *sooner*. Thank you!!!

It is a long letter, but I can only assume that if you read this blog regularly it is because you care about someone who is adopting. This will impact all of our lives. PLEASE read the letter in its entirety and then the "support" letter which follows it.

The support letter is the one that can be cut and pasted into your own email and forwarded with your own particulars to personalize it to christycanuck @yahoo.ca


Thank you, Justine
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In June 2007, Bill C-14 "An Act to Amend the Citizenship Act(Adoption)" was passed by both Houses of Parliament and received RoyalAssent. This Bill did away with the need for internationally adopted children to apply for permanent resident status to come to Canada and instead spelled out that they could receive Canadian citizenship if certain conditions (relating to the best interests of the child, the fulfilment of legal requirements, and it being a bona fide adoption)were met.

For the past four and a half months. the adoption world has been anxiously awaiting the publication of the regulations spelling out how the new procedures would work. A draft of these new regulations was finally made public in the Canada Gazette of November 3, 2007, and interested parties invited to comment on them.

Families who are adopting from Ethiopia have taken the initiative toprepare a response to the regulations. While we are supportive of theBill, and while the procedure and supporting documentation requiredfor this new process appear relatively straightforward, we nevertheless have concerns relating to how long it takes to bring our children home.

The introduction to the proposed new regulations states that "It is anticipated that the applications for citizenship will be completed in a similar time frame as the immigration permanent residentapplications" and again "As this is a new service line for citizenship, service standards are currently under development." These statements are of little comfort, given that the service standard for permanent resident visa applications is for a decision to be made within six months, and that the people processing Ethiopian adoption permanent resident applications are currently taking close to the fulltime to issue visas. We believe that it is in the best interests of our children to remove them from an institutional setting and bring them home as quickly as possible. It is in the Canadian government's power to do so; they merely need to establish a specific servicestandard for processing the new citizenship applications and ensure that they meet the standard.

We have, therefore, prepared a position letter outlining our concerns and the rationale behind them. The position letter is presented below. It is followed by a "support letter." If you do indeed support the position taken in the position letter, we ask you to send your personalized letter of support to Chris Ardern (at christycanuck @yahoo.ca – remove spaces) NO LATER THAN 13 NOVEMBER 2007. We will collect all the support letters and include them in a package with the position letter to be sent to the Director at Citizenship and Immigration who is responsible for collecting responses to theregulations. All responses need to reach him by 15 November 2007.



Position Letter

9 November 2007

Mark Davidson
Director, Legislation and Program Policy
Citizenship BranchCitizenship and Immigration Canada

Re: Canada Gazette, Part 1, Vol.141, No. 44 – November 3, 2007.

Dear Mr. Davidson,We are writing to you as adoptive parents concerned with how the newRegulations Amending the Citizenship Regulations, 1993, may play out.

We are aware that the intent of Bill C-14: An Act to Amend theCitizenship Act (Adoption) was to address the differential treatmentbetween children born abroad to Canadian citizens and those adopted abroad in regards to acquisition of Canadian citizenship. In particular, some children adopted abroad by Canadian parents havenever been able to obtain Canadian citizenship as they always resided abroad and never became permanent residents. The Federal Court judgedthis differential treatment to violate section 15 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms.

Bill C-14 removes the requirement for permanent resident status beforeapplying for Canadian citizenship. In so doing, the Bill and the new regulations have implications for all children adopted abroad by Canadian citizens, including those who will immediately be brought toCanada by their adoptive parents, which constitute the majority of international adoptions.

We strongly support the amendment of the Citizenship Act to make it easier and faster for children adopted abroad to receive Canadian citizenship. Similarly, the new regulations governing the citizenship application process appear to be well-grounded and straightforward.

Our concerns centre around the statement contained in the RegulatoryImpact Analysis that "applications for citizenship will be completed in a similar time frame as the permanent resident applications." The reasons for our concern are the following:

• we wish to ensure that our children spend as little time ininstitutional care as possible;

• the permanent resident processing timelines for adopted children(and, therefore, the new citizenship application processing timelines)can be quite lengthy and vary significantly depending on the country from which the child is being adopted; and

• Canada's timelines for bringing our children home appear to besignificantly longer and much more variable than timelines of othercountries.

The Regulatory Impact Analysis notes further that "service standards are currently under development." We strongly recommend that servicestandards be set to a maximum of four weeks for processing Bill C-14 citizenship applications. This would eliminate the vastly different timelines between source countries and enable all adoptive parents to bring our children home as quickly as possible.

Minimizing the time our children spend in institutional care

It is in the best interests of our children to spend as little time aspossible in institutional care.

The International Adoption Medicine Program at the University ofMinnesota Children's Hospital has conducted extensive research on the effects of institutional care on the development and growth ofinternationally adopted children. Many findings point to extended institutional care being detrimental to the physical growth and cognitive development of children. For example:

• Institutionalized children's growth rates fall one month of linear growth behind for every 3-4 months spent in an orphanage, regardlessof the country of origin.

• It is common for even very young institutionalized children to experience sleep issues (such as the fear of sleeping alone or ofabandonment while asleep) or food issues (such as gorging or hoarding).

• Expressive language is always behind in institutionalized children,even those as young as 18 months.

• Some institutionalized children experience sensory integrationdifficulties.

This does not mean that internationally adopted children fare less well than children born to Canadians. It does mean that they face different, and in many cases more, challenges. With proper care,attention, and time, these challenges can be overcome. The vast majority of children adopted internationally from institutional settings make significant growth and developmental gains during the first years of life in their adoptive families, quickly catching up with their never-institutionalized peers.

Despite this, the University of Minnesota's research shows that, threeyears after joining their families, 30% of internationally adoptedchildren who spent eight months or more in institutional care sufferfrom lingering developmental or behavioural issues. Thus, evenrelatively short periods of institutional care during a child'scritical early years can have long-term effects that take much longerto overcome than the actual amount of time spent in care.

Length and variability of permanent resident (and by extensioncitizenship) processing timelines

The length of time a child spends in institutional care prior to being adopted is outside the control of the Canadian government. However, the length of time it takes to bring that child home once the adoption has been finalized is a factor over which the Canadian government has almost complete control.

In light of the research findings noted above, it behoves the Canadian government to do everything in its power to ensure that internationally adopted children spend the least amount of time in institutional care as humanly possible. The service standard for processing permanent resident visa applications is that a decision is made within six months. The actualprocessing timelines vary considerably. No doubt owing to the volumeof adoptions from China , these children obtain their permanentresident visa within four days of the application being submitted.Children adopted from other countries are not as fortunate. Thosecoming from Ethiopia, for example, are being made to wait as long asfive months from the time the application is submitted – despite thefact that adopted children's visas applications are supposed to begiven priority.

With the change to a citizenship-based homecoming process, there will also be the need to apply for a Canadian passport for our children, adding about another week to the timeline.

By maintaining a six-month standard for granting citizenship to children adopted abroad, the Canadian government contributes directly and significantly to the cognitive and developmental delays and challenges that many internationally adopted children face. As adoptions from China continue to decline and adoptions from other countries increase, more and more internationally adopted children will be affected by the longer timelines and inconsistent practices of Canadian government procedures, and more and more of them may face increased developmental challenges owing to factors entirely within the Canadian government's control.

If the Canadian government is indeed concerned with acting in the best interests of our children, it must develop service standards and processing timelines that result in a much faster union between children and their new families, thus minimizing the effects ofinstitutionalization.

The most important thing for parents of internationally adopted children is to bring our children home as quickly as possible. We wantto hold them in our arms and have the often years-long "gestation"come to an end. Faster citizenship means little to adoptive parents ifit is not accompanied by a fast and efficient means for bringing ourchildren home.

Canadian homecoming timelines are longer and more variable than those of other countries

Our research indicates that adoptive parents in other countries can bring their children home much more quickly than many Canadian parentscan. While there are differences in the way the destination country treats various source countries, these differences appear to be matters of policy and regulation (such as different treatment of Hague signatory countries versus non-Hague signatory countries), rather than differences based on inconsistent service standards.

The United States imposes certain conditions upon the immigration and citizenship of internationally adopted children. These conditions are screened through an interview with a US consular official in thechild's country of birth, generally within a few weeks of the adoption's being finalized, following which a visa to enter the US is granted immediately. Citizenship is granted either upon the child'sentry to the US or upon re-adoption in the US, depending on the typeof immigrant visa issued and the requirements of the parents' state of residence. It appears that the immigration process can generally be completed within 4-6 weeks of the adoption being finalized or the parent gaining legal custody of the child abroad.

The United Kingdom allows internationally adopted children to enter the UK on an adoption visa, which can apparently be obtained at British embassies within three working days. The visa is granted basedon the foreign adoption documentation, occasionally supplemented by an interview with the adoptive parents. Thus, it appears that internationally adopted children are able to join their families inthe UK very quickly after the foreign adoption order is issued.

Internationally adopted children enter Australia on an adoption immigrant visa. Adoptions from Hague signatory countries are recognized as final based on the foreign adoption order; otherwise the adoption must be finalized in Australia. In the former case, the child must apply for citizenship either from abroad or in Australia. In the latter case, the child becomes a citizen automatically upon the adoption's being finalized and need only apply for proof of citizenship. Adoptive parents in Australia inform us that the immigration process is usually completed within 4-8 weeks of theadoption being finalized, at least for adoptions from Ethiopia.

Adoptive parents from Finland and Spain have informed us that, for adoptions from Ethiopia, their children's immigrant visas can be processed within a month of the adoption being finalized in the Ethiopian courts.

Specific service standards or alternate procedures

To enable the speedy union of adopted children with their parents, andto minimize the effects of institutional care, we urge you toestablish specific service standards for Bill C-14 citizenshipapplications, and that these be processed in a maximum of four weeksregardless of the child's country of origin.

Since the vast majority of internationally adopted children are under five years of age, there can be little question that they will be granted citizenship. The sole reason for the continued differential treatment of adopted versus birth children (in requiring them to applyfor citizenship rather than being given automatic citizenship) is to ensure that it is a bona fide adoption and in the best interests ofthe child. As a country that has ratified the Hague Convention on Intercountry Adoption, Canada (via the provinces) has implemented strict regulations governing international adoptions by Canadians which ensure that these criteria have been met. The provincial approvals that authorize parents to adopt a child internationally are the very documents that parents will be required to submit with the citizenship application, along with the foreign adoption orders, to substantiate fulfillment of the requirements under section 5.1(1) or5.1(3) of the Citizenship Act.

Therefore, it should be virtually a given that the submission of these documents equates with fulfillment of the conditions. It should thus be neither onerous nor time-consuming to review the documentation and make a decision with regards to citizenship for these children.

We would go so far as to suggest that internationally adopted children should be able to receive a temporary Canadian passport that would enable them to enter Canada even before the citizenship decision hasbeen made. However, that would require changes to the Order Respecting Canadian Passports, and as such is beyond the scope of Bill C-14 and the new regulations.

Thank you very much for considering our perspectives as adoptive and prospective adoptive parents. We would be happy to discuss our views and concerns with you at your convenience.

Sincerely,

Roma Quapp
(Adoptive mother to a daughter from China and a son fromEthiopia, the latter of whom is still waiting for a permanent residentvisa to be issued four months after his adoption was finalized)
and
Christine Johnstone Ardern
(Prospective adoptive mother of a daughterfrom Ethiopia, waiting for the adoption to be finalized)

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Support Letter

If you support the above position letter and wish to include a letterof support in the package we are preparing for Mr. Davidson, please cut and paste the text below into a clean e-mail, PERSONALIZE it with your details (if you desire, otherwise remove the all-caps text relating to personalization), include your full NAME and ADDRESS at the bottom, and send it to christycanuck @ yahoo.ca (remove spaces) NO LATER THAN 13 NOVEMBER 2007.

Mark Davidson
Director, Legislation and Program Policy
Citizenship Branch
Citizenship and Immigration Canada


Dear Mr. Davidson, PERSONALIZE LETTER BY STATING YOUR SITUATION: (PROSPECTIVE) ADOPTIVEPARENT, NUMBER OF CHILDREN, LENGTH OF TIME FOR VISA TO BE ISSUED,ETC.; OR OTHER RELATIVE OR FRIEND,

I fully support the position laid out by Roma Quapp and Chris Johnstone Ardern regarding the need for set specific service standards for Bill C-14 citizenship applications to be processed within a maximum of four weeks. This would ensure a speedy union between children adopted abroad and their families in Canada and minimize the time they spend in institutional care.

Making it easier and faster for children adopted abroad to receive Canadian citizenship is a good thing. But faster citizenship means little if it is not also accompanied by a fast and efficient processfor bringing our children home.

Up to a third of internationally adopted children who spent eight months or more in institutional care suffer from lingering developmental issues three years after joining their families. The Canadian government's current processing standards contribute directly and significantly to this problem by causing many adopted children to stay institutionalized far longer than necessary. Failing to improve these standards by reducing timelines will mean the Canadian government is failing our internationally adopted children. The Canadian government should work for the best interests of these children by ensuring that they need wait no longer than a month before being allowed to join their new families.

Sincerely,
NAME
ADDRESS

Tuesday, November 6, 2007

How Disappointing

You know, this last week, I have read blogs that different friends have, and funny enough, two or three of them referred to 'waiting'. Yes. I am waiting. But I didn't think they really related to me as I 'expected' to wait for three weeks for Authentication of our dossier, and it has only been a week.

Our homestudy was sent to our agency on Friday, October 26. I emailed them on Monday, October 30, and asked that they let me know if they had received the dossier and our money. It was alot of money that I did not want going missing in the mail, and also, our dossier could not go to Ethiopia, unless the money arrived. I did not hear back from them. That Friday, I called and asked them to ask our facilitator to send me an email letting me know where our file was and what was happening. Again, I heard nothing that day or Monday of this week.

The ironic thing is, there was a valid reason for wanting to know what the routine was once the dossier arrived at our agency. It was because I had no idea if a dossier was going to get into their office and be popped into the mail again for Ottawa, for Authentication immediately, or if there was work to be done on it before it could go on.

I could just envision it sitting on a 'In Pile' in someone's office, for days! I can handle that - But if it was going to happen, I wanted to mentally prepare myself to add another week to our expected three week wait, which is what we are told to anticipate when it comes to the Authentication process.

Today, my friend Corrie, sent me an email asking if I had got our dossier back from Authentication yet. Nope! She and I are on the same timeline; we are about 1 day apart, which is really exciting! Her family has already adopted twins who are 1 1/2 and are adopting a little boy and girl next time. It would be very cool if we were able to have our children in the transition house at the same time! Even cooler if we ended up travelling at the same time.

When I got back to her, I found out that her dossier, which arrived at the agency the day before mine, was *already* back from Authentication!! How cool was that!! That means she got an Authentication in ONE week!!

Hearing *that* got me on the phone. Now I *needed* to know WHERE MY DOSSIER WAS!!!! Had it left? Was it enroute? Was it back? What??? I called the agency and got our facilitator, and she told me that she had sent me an email on October 30. What???!! I did not receive any email!!!

They needed a missing document! What!? I had sent my paperwork in two months ago, so that I would NOT have this happen!! I wanted all the creases worked out *before* our homestudy made it there, so there were no hold ups! Thank the Lord, Corrie emailed me today, or I would have waited til the end of the week, before I would have contacted the agency again!!!! AAACCKKK!!

So, thankfully, the only document they were missing was a photo of the girls' room!!! I told her that she *had* that picture! It was the little boys' room and would be decorated for the girls, and the boys would move out when we had the girls come home! So, now she said she had all she needed and our file could be sent to Ottawa!!! (this is me screaming in frustration)

How disappointing!! We lost a week. Not a big deal it seems. But yes! A week is a lot when you could be waiting another 15 months to bring them home!!! Every minute counts! And especially when it was a 'missing' email or an unanswered phone call that could have solved the problem and we might have had our file in Ethiopia this week TOO!! So now our three weeks count down begins again; probably tomorrow, by the time they get the file in the mail!

Okay, my rant is done, and I feel a bit better now. Just keep on waiting.... *grin* There is a reason for every wait! I know, I know. I keep on telling myself this. And I am trusting God for a *speedy* turn around like Corrie got!!!

"But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, be patient! For it will surely take place. It will not be late by a single day." Habakkuk 2:3